How to REALLY love yourself…
You’ve got to take a really hard look in the mirror and do some soul searching about the stories you tell yourself. I know I’ve had to.
When I really boiled down the story of why I’m a workaholic, it wasn’t because I wanted to make a load of money. It wasn’t because as a child I lacked security.
It all boiled down to this one thought…I am not enough.
Your thought could be any number of things:
I am unlovable.
I am unworthy.
I am…fill in the blank.
You’re not any of those things, of course. But tell yourself it enough – consciously or subconsciously – and you’ll start to believe it. In fact, you already have.
It’s why you don’t put yourself first.
It’s why you make excuses about why you don’t put yourself first. The kids are more important. You need to pay the bills. The house needs cleaning. Your boss wouldn’t understand.
You see reason & logic to these statements, because it’s easier to justify than to REALLY take a look at what’s going on.
THAT’S how you learn to really love yourself. It’s fucking hard work. But, trust me, it’s worth it.